"Why aren't they willing to work harder!" Children don't always take the initiative to learn，Parents always don't know what to do in a parent-child relationship! in parent-child relationship，Many parents long for their children to talk to them，But forget the communication skills of conveying love，Many parents and their children have close to zero communication skills，often criticize、nagging、Authoritarian orders, etc. replace caring for children，Over time, your child won't tell you about school.。
Here are 3 key communication skills to share，Help parents and children build a good parent-child relationship。
Why do children confine their minds in front of their parents?
British educator Spencer said："What is the child thinking? What kind of problems are they facing? The inner world of a child is like a box full of secrets。in this box，there are animals、There are characters、have a dream、have emotions，cluttered inside。Check it out if you don't open it often，One day when you accidentally open it，Maybe a mouse will come out of it，scare you。」
The most common mistake many parents make，just don't understand the child's mind，Inferring subjectively based on one's own thoughts，The result is a strained parent-child relationship.。In this way，No matter how parents motivate their children，The result will be "hate iron is not steel"。do not forget，Communication skills，also a way of education。
Let the children know themselves better、improper judge，learn to be a lawyer，listen to the child finish
if，When the child has a problem，Parents immediately acted as "judges" to teach their children，It is equivalent to directly cutting off the opportunity to enter the child's inner world.，Everyone makes mistakes，Parents are no exception。especially，When parents are authoritative or accusatory，It is easy for children to cause great backlash。therefore，when communicating with children，Parents must first let go of their evaluation and judgment，Be open-minded and caring，Guide the child to speak his mind，Treat your clients like a "lawyer"，Try to listen to what is really inside your child。
in parent-child relationship，first communication skills，is "understanding"。Let go of presuppositions and criticism，Take the time to listen to your child's true thoughts and needs。
| Example A：it's too difficult，you can't finish。➙ only，you spend enough time and effort，Everything is possible。 |
Let the children know themselves better、Improper referee，Learn to be a cheerleader，Give your child the support they need
in parent-child relationship，Some parents like to help their children make decisions，To be a "judge"，Protecting Children with Interventions and Restrictions，The most often heard is "I'm all for your own good"，even make decisions directly for the child。back to school，Even if the child is not so prominent，As long as parents are good at discovering and praising their children，Guide children to face failure with the right attitude，"Cheerleading" as a good boy，support instead of limit，Parents are the strongest support for children，Give children the opportunity to be their own bosses，To cultivate children's independent character and self-confidence。
in parent-child relationship，Second Communication Skill，is "respect"。let go，Let children learn to make decisions，He can't learn，rather than being given a chance，learn how to do it。
| Example B：Xiaohua next door is not in your class，Also in the same cram school，people are good，Why are you not as good as him every time? ➙ Just learn his method，then do it seriously，You can do it too! |
Three ways to let children know themselves better、Not a teacher，learn to be friends，Communicate with children on an equal footing
Children need to be listened to，Their parents gave them a lot of advice，But he said this is all the love of his parents。in parent-child relationship，Once parents just want to be "teachers" and guide chess，Children and parents are always unequal。Only parents are willing to get along with their children as equals，Try to see things from a child’s perspective，Guide children to express their true feelings，Only then can we have the opportunity to be "friends" with our children，Share the hardships and joys of the process with your children，Twist and laughter，Let children not be afraid of their parents’ “authority”，Truly enter the child’s inner world。
in parent-child relationship，The third communication skill，It's "equality"。Put down the parents’ airs，Squat down and talk to your children，It’s easier to get into children’s hearts。
| Example C：Can't even do these well，I really。➙ You may not be able to do it right now，but it doesn't matter，Slowly work in this direction，You'll get better and better at it。 |
parents love children，But I can't protect you forever，Children can only experience，Only then can we have the opportunity to transform and grow up.。Parents' role in the family，Just act as a manager，Master these 3 communication skills，Help children become more independent and confident，In order to encourage children to learn independently、The effect of healthy growth。
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